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Staying true to yourself in a world of Contradictions

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Hello 2024.  It’s here, just like that.  As I spent some time trying to find some inspirational content online, I couldn’t help but be reminded of how hard it can feel to stay true to yourself in a world of contradictions.  One minute you see a motivational video about pushing for more and raising your standards and the following week, the same person is preaching about contentment being key!  I try my best to avoid endless scrolling but the things I get sucked into are food videos, travel reels and quotes.  I love a quote but find there is so much of the same old stuff.  I came across one yesterday that I liked because it is one of the most optimistic things I have read about heartbreak.

To love someone who for whatever reason cannot return your feelings is painful.  But if you listen to the poets, perhaps there is a kind of beauty to that love.  It burns bright and is never tainted by reality or over use.  It’s as clear and fierce today as it was the very first day it began.  And there is beauty to that.

Nice but the sceptic in me feels that if you love someone that much, there can never be an overuse.  But still, top effort.  I liked it enough to share it with you.  I remember when I was writing my book, I tried my best to avoid all other content be that online or in books.  I wanted the words to come from me.  Our head can get noisy with the thoughts of others.  That is why self reflection and writing stuff down can help to remind us how we really feel.   Do you want to focus on what you have and be content?  Do you need more, whatever that means to you?  Perhaps more challenge, more love, more acceptance, more fun?  Are all the quotes about being content guilt tripping you into settling when you want to go on an adventure?

I am aware we all have different life situations.  When you have young kids then it is natural to want to put them first.  But what if your gut is crying out to you?  Friends of ours recently chose to listen to their gut and they are packing up and taking the kids around the world.  A bold move and so out of that comfort zone but wow, I am proud of them.  I am excited for them.  Because it is what they want. They are following their heart over their head.

Sometimes we can’t always get what we want.  Yes, I hear what you are thinking if you know the song.  But if you try sometimes, well, you might find you get what you need.  There are, however, things out of our control such as our health and the reaction of others.  You may disagree on a big life choice with your partner.  The depth of love you feel for someone may not be reciprocated.  You may need to change exciting plans due to health reasons.  Acceptance can be hard.  Perhaps you want to give someone a shake, can’t they see what you do?  Maybe you have a vision that terrifies you but you know in your heart it’s worth fighting for. Understanding when to let go and when to push is tough.  When does determination become an obsession? When does it verge on driving you crazy? Or does giving up or letting go mean defeat?

I smile when I think of the parable of Mary and Martha.  Mary loves to chill and be present.  She is spiritual and tactile.  She embraces her senses.  Martha loves to serve and she rushes around mad, doing all the practical stuff.  She finds it hard to sit still and be there.  She gets frustrated because she wants more praise for being run off her feet.  Who can you relate to most?  Perhaps you can relate to both.  Maybe you have learnt the hard way that a balance is needed.

Lots of questions to think about.  Whatever you choose, I hope you can find the beauty in every day as you work it all out.  I have committed to posting something I am thankful about on my Instagram and Facebook stories every day this year.  I am really enjoying consciously taking time to see the positives.  The lovely thing about it is that you can go and create them or notice the little moments that you wouldn’t think much of.  Or you may just stumble across a quote that makes you feel less alone, a bit like a huge hug in the form of words.  If you want to join me focusing on the good and trying my best to keep the mind a beautiful place, hop onto my facebook @jojofrasermojo or Insta.

If you want a friendly and super real pep talk, perhaps as you walk, I will be giving out some free mojo injections on my podcast.  We are almost at 200 episodes!  Tune in here or at your fave podcast app.  Here is a link to the latest episode, Mary.  Jump in.

Much love and mojo.  2024, we got this x

Jojo Fraser - scottish presenter and blogger


Jojo Fraser is an award-winning mental health researcher, author, podcaster and speaker, dubbed as ‘the Queen of positivity and a kindness advocate.   She is a Tedx speaker and a regular contributor on BBC radio.  Jojo is known for normalising discussions around our mental, emotional and spiritual health, making it accessible and relatable to all.  She has quickly grown a reputation for having a huge impact even on the most sceptical of people.

Connect with her across social @jojofrasermojo

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