Holding back our true feelings for too long can be deadly. Research shows us that repressed emotions result with ‘dis ease’ be that physical, mental, emotional or spiritual. I spoke very openly about this on my podcast episode, tune in here but warning it is VERY honest. I went to those places deep within me. I worked through my inner child blocks. Although this put me in a very vulnerable position, it saved me. It saved me from a life that was lonely and not in alignment with my heart and soul. My mind did a great job of keeping me safe for years but then I broke. Something had to give.
Fast forward the clock a few months and I wake with a sense of inner joy, hope and peace that I never felt was possible. I get out of bed each day, ready to live and be a human being. Yes, I still love to have goals and be productive, but I am in a flow state or a relaxed or fun state so much more than I was. I enjoy my own company and I try my best to love and respect who I am. It feels amazing to be able to write these words. It is so true what they say, cracks in a heart are where the light shines in and I think it’s the same when we process trauma. This is where we find our deepest strength and amazing, resilient parts of ourselves we never knew existed. I am comfortable in those dark places now and I sometimes feel invigorated by them. I can boldly say that I now know my truest, most authentic self.
Protecting our energy is vital. I spoke about this briefly last week here. It can be triggering for people when we are honest with them. Sometimes we have to hang out with triggering people, perhaps they are work colleagues or family. Putting boundaries in place is so key but it can feel like the hardest thing ever. I love to keep the peace and look out for others but now I know that I can’t be drained for too long. Because I am a sensitive, deep thinker and feeler with a huge heart. That means I need to schedule in time on my own with music or a notebook. Or time seeing people who make me laugh or understand me. We become who we spend time with and that is all down to energy that is exchanged.
Repressed emotions are often unconscious. Suppressed emotions are the ones that we already know about if we are fully honest but we just keep the head down, bash on with life and keep going. Supressed and repressed emotions will always show up at some point. Here are some warning signs:
You feel emotional and cry more than often.
You feel numb or lonely.
Stress, anxiety or depression show up.
You struggle to sleep (this is a huge one for me and insomnia floors me).
Muscle tension and back pain.
A change in your appetite.
Poor gut health.
The list could go on. I believe when we meditate or/and pray, journal, take time to breathe deeply or get into cold water therapy and other amazing practices, that we start to become more clear. Clarity is a beautiful thing and to be able to live this way each and every day is such an incredible gift. Go easy on yourself and be honest with those that challenge you. Sometimes it will feel uncomfortable but it is always worth it.
If you need someone to chat to in a safe and judgement free space, get in touch. Stop fighting your feelings. We are here to feel and grow and evolve.
A mantra I love is – I believe in you. Say this loud and clear, stand and look in the mirror or close your eyes and say – I believe in you Jojo Ruth Fraser (your name obvs but feel free to send me good vibes too haha).
Go easy on yourself. It’s not a race. We evolve each day. You deserve to feel joy and peace of mind. I know you can get there. Much love. You got this.
Jojo Fraser is an award-winning mental health researcher, author, podcaster and keynote speaker, dubbed as ‘the Queen of positivity and a kindness advocate. She is a Tedx speaker and a regular contributor on BBC radio. Jojo is known for normalising discussions around our mental and spiritual health, making it accessible and relatable to all. She has quickly grown a reputation for having a huge impact even on the most sceptical of people.
Connect with her across social @jojofrasermojo (Instagram is hacked so go to https://www.instagram.com/jojowintour/)
Listen to her Tedx talk about the power of removing our masks.
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