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How to feel alive and care less about what other’s think

Jojo Fraser - wild swimming and mojo at 37

Above image by Anna Deacon

This week, on time for a mojo injection episode 118, we are talking feeling more alive and caring less about what others think.  Jump in here.

I shall throw in a few tips for the mojo, which we go into in more detail on the podcast.

Naming the inner critic is useful.  I like to call mine ‘asshole’ and gently tell it to back off, others, like my lovely guest, coach Hannah, are a little kinder with their judgemental ego and prefer to be friends with it and thank it for trying to keep them safe.  Whatever works for you.  Perhaps you prefer the gentle approach:

‘Hi moany Mandy, I appreciate you for trying to keep me safe with all these judgemental thoughts, but I am ok and I’ve got this’.


‘Oh, you again!  Would you please back off you absolute ASSHOLE’.

Values.  It’s great to know your values but try getting very clear and picking your top one.  This will help you to live your life feeling more alive and of course to be so sure of your deepest desires, that you trust in your decisions each day and care less what others think.  When we are super clear, it is much easier to live our life in line with who we really are and therefore, external validation will be less important.

Passions.  We can make up stories to talk us out of our passions for example: ‘I’m a Mum to two young kids, now is not the time to take up surfing.’  Says who?  It can be easy to listen to the fearful stories but actually what serves us more is living by our values.  When we live a life embracing our passions, we have more to offer our kids and loved ones.  It is easier to be a beacon of light when we do the things that light is up.  We need more light so do what lights you up.

Affirmations.  Positive affirmations are better in the morning.  Do them in a way that feels natural to you, be that standing in front of the mirror, journalling, going for a cold water dip or cold shower and shouting them with conviction.  We all need daily positive affirmations.  Think of it like a gym for the mind.

A good brain dump is great for the mojo.  Get rid of the jumble and clarity will follow.  We need that quiet time to tap into our inner wisdom and clear out the rubbish.

Guilt.  If you are torn between your deep desires and being a people pleaser, come back to those values again to guide you.

We get to choose.  What you think matters.  You get to choose how you spend your time here so get clear on what you really want.  When you take the time to truly figure this out, you become unstoppable.

Hannah Buchan and Jojo Fraser

Hannah Buchan is a Life & Business Coach for women who want to Live More. She wants women to stop caring what other people/ society thinks. For women to know their core values. For women to own who they are and what they want. For women to have the tools and self-belief to make it happen. She is on a mission to create a movement of women living unapologetically full and adventurous lives.

Hannah runs workshops and speaks on a range of self-development topics including: how to feel alive and fulfilled, how knowing your purpose will change your life and how to harness your inner critic and feel unstoppable. She works with a small number of 1-2-1 clients and runs group coaching programmes. Hannah lives on the coast and is Mum to three wild little boys. When she’s not coaching Hannah is probably adding another book to her pile or seeing how quickly she can get in and out of the sea.

Contact her on Instagram or here. 

Jojo Fraser

Jojo Fraser is an award winning author, coach, podcaster and motivational/TEDX speaker.  She has been a mental health researcher for the past 7 years and helps to empower, motivate and uplift the leaders she works with.  She is known for her straight talking and bold approach.  Her mission is simple – to normalise what many see as ‘the hard’ conversations and in breaking the stigma, save many lives.

She is a regular speaker on BBC Radio, a keen foodie, lover of trail running, wild swimming, spa days and she loves to sing.  Jojo writes about all things mindfulness, relationships, positive psychology and lifestyle.

Tune into her daily stories on Instagram @jojofrasermojo and Facebook @jojofrasermojo.

You can purchase her first book here.

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