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Are you carrying ‘stuff’ that isn’t yours? Podcast episode 92

Are you carrying ‘stuff’ that isn’t yours? Podcast episode 92

I loved catching up with the lovely Jill Richie  on my podcast, time for a mojo injection.  You can tune in here on spotify or hop onto itunes and download.  I feel very proud that we have made it to episode 92.  It has taken determination and passion to set the time aside to stay commited to show up fully each week.  The podcast was born to encourage people to quit with the bull and share those issues that we so easily surpress.  It is always open, raw and real and there is days worth of free therapy to be downloaded.  I will always question the way of society.  I love how frank Jill is on this episode as she reminds us to forget the UK ‘norm’ of wearing a badge of honour for being ‘strong’, whatever that means.

Jill and I talk about what we choose to carry.  I love the story she shared about challenging her partner with regards to ‘his stuff’ that he was trying to put on her, without even realising.  It is SO easy to pick up issues from those closest to us, subconsciously mirroring behaviours and actions that are not ours to take on.  Whilst it is great to show empathy and be kind, we need to take the time to check in with those knots on our shoulders.

I was challenged not so long ago, for taking on too much baggage.  By that point, it was too late and I was completely done in with a fractured mind.  Jill and I talk a lot about energy and how easy it is to give all of ours away.  We both have a passion for serving the wellbeing of others, but that can get dangerous and when we crash, we crash hard and fast.  How do we ‘tune in’ to what we should take on and what we should challenge?  With lockdown 2020 in full swing, there is certainly a lot more time for many of us to reflect.  Do you need to put a protective bubble around you for a bit?  Do you need to say a very simple word more often? That word is ‘no’.  Such a simple word that can be so hard to say.

Perhaps you need to keep your circle close.  A great friend of mine gave me this advice when I was really unwell and VERY confused in hospital.  She said:

‘Jojo, now more than ever, you need to keep your circle close.  You need to keep the ones that know, understand and love the ‘real you’ super close.’

I think this is great advice for general life.  Having a close circle that we can be open and honest with, without judgement,  is so important.  Because those that truly know you, know your intensions and character.  They can also spot when you are not yourself, which is of course one huge warning sign for the mojo.

Epiosde 92 is an easy listen, full of tips and tricks to help you transform and have a deeper understanding of yourself.  Enjoy.  Mojo x


Jojo Fraser is an award winning author, coach, podcaster and motivational speaker.  Jojo believes that we are all born to lead.  She has been a mental health researcher for the past 6 years and helps to empower, motivate and uplift the leaders she works with.  She is a regular speaker on BBC Radio and wellbeing radio, a keen foodie, lover of running, wild swimming and she loves to sing.





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