How are the confidence levels? I work hard to encourage people to feel sexy. The ability to feel good in our own skin is an amazing thing but sometimes we need a toolkit. You may be well aware that music is one of mine (and how sexy is this song – I loved that Sunday morning, house all to myself, dancing around and getting lost in it. Another song that makes me feel super sexy is 100% this. I blast it around the house, whilst I cook, in the gym, when I drive. It takes me to special places. I would love to hear more so fire any good, sexy tunes my way please.
Feeling sexy is nothing to do with what other people think. Feeling sexy is personal to us all, it is a state of mind.
Here are some of my tips to bring sexy back if you feel the mojo is heading for another city.
Relationship with our Vices
Know when you have lost control. Food is often a vice that can creep in and impact our balance. Be this eating way more than you need or not enough. It works both ways. We need food for fuel and energy (and pleasure) and too much or too little will have a huge impact on our mood.
Food makes me so happy but there was a period in my life that it controlled me. Which meant weight gain, let’s be honest it is SO easy, never get cocky. In 2013 I felt anything but sexy when I was getting ready so I avoided partying. Instead there was a party in my palate and I ate whatever I wanted. There is a chapter in my book all about controlling our vices. Over the years I have got the balance wrong with some of my vices but I am happy to say that food and I are in a fairly good place right now.
Having a healthy relationship with food is a lifestyle choice which means having a routine.
Set time aside to plan and implement routine into your diet. I had planned to make Sunday my food prep day but it was cram packed. Better late than never, I worked with what I had and then did some research in terms of the best ingredients I needed to stock up on. I then did a strategic food shop and it was SO satisfying. I will try and blog my shop soon or you can catch it on Insta stories until lunchtime tomorrow.
New goals help us feel sexy because they give us a sense of pride when we achieve them. I have set some pretty challenging goals this year. One of them being to change my body composition, which I am keeping tabs on every 6 weeks. Since having Charlie, our 2nd babe, fitness has been a huge part of my life which is now my natural routine. Keeping active gives me so much confidence and energy. Why would I ever want to stop? Even when I can’t be bothered.
Be present when you kiss. Get lost in it. So much easier said than done when you are past that epic honeymoon period. Hubs informs me I used to be the best kisser in the world and now I am prone to “Kissing like a Mum” whatever that means. Sometimes though I surprise him and often it is when I am feeling at my most positive due to focusing on the things that make me happier.
Ignore the Excuses – only you can make goals happen
I often get annoyed with that Hubs of mine. He comes home with ‘quick and easy jars of sauces’ that are crammed with sugar and tempting food I would prefer to avoid for the vast majority of the week. No wonder I kiss “like a Mum”. He is trying to help me as he gets how hectic life is BUT it actually hinders because I know that too much sugar and junk will have an impact on my body composition goals and skin, which will impact my confidence. I could blame him or I could take control and action. This is hard as will often mean making my own food. I dished him up quinoa and buckwheat earlier as a side dish and he was almost sick.
Accept compliments and believe them.
I have managed to ensure oily fish is a part of my routine since Amber came into my life and my skin is glowing. It’s also great for our brain and when the brain works well and is stimulated it opens up our ability to feel sexy. My favourite is the smoked trout from The Tobermory Fish Company.
This stuff melts in your mouth. I served it up on Christmas day as canapes with posh oatcakes and sliced through prawn and avocado cocktails. It went down an absolute treat.
Wear a smell that awakens your soul and makes you feel sexy. That scent for me right now is Creed Aventus for her but ironically the Hubs can’t stand it. I had advice from a fellow blogging friend to just wear it anyway. Because feeling sexy is a state of mind.
I recently wrote about Dry January and was amazed by the response and the messages I had about this article. We all know that too much booze is a no go if you want to lose weight, nurture the mind and get the glow. Again, it is all about balance. Research shows that a glass or two of wine is very good for us. I think it is about knowing your body. Some of us handle the booze better – be it mentally, physically, our digestive system, our sleep patterns after it. Know your body. Know when it is a nice treat and know when it is holding you back from your mojo. Triggers for me – waking up in the middle of the night, feeling anxious after drinking which makes me feel way less sexy.
Encourage and don’t compare
Stop comparing yourself to other people. There is only one of you. Focus on all the things you love about yourself and set goals for the areas where confidence is lacking. Also, don’t make assumptions. Often some of the most physically stunning people are the most insecure. Be kind.
Surround yourself with people who encourage you and accept you. Make sure friends and family are aware of how important your goals are to you – whatever they may be. Having self-control is way much easier with support and positive relationships.
I read a quote on twitter earlier this week that said “If you are too busy to laugh, you are too busy”. Laughter is so sexy. Try and do more of it.
Here’s to bringing sexy back in 2018.
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