How real do you keep it? Do you change for different types of people? I’ve been there. I have adapted in the past. I played the game and I played it well. Looking back – why?? Why wasn’t I proud enough to keep it real. It was because of fear. Fear of rejection. You know what is so much more scary to me now? Thinking that I have to change to please others (small print – good manners and being nice aside – these skills are priceless and sometimes we need a reminder when stress creeps up and says ‘be an asshole’). As the years go on, I have been lucky enough to have people in my life that get me. Old and new. Those relationships are worth their weight in gold.
We’ve all heard the cliche awful line. It’s not you, it’s me. We don’t like it but guess what? It is so true. If someone decides they don’t want to be with you then it’s not really about you. It’s about the thoughts in their head. Thoughts that tell them you are not what they want. This applies to romantic relationships and friendships. It applies to every single relationship you have on this amazing, little earth.
Because many will think differently from you. They don’t have the same mind. And that’s ok.
Their life experiences and their thoughts are all based on them. What has happened. Who may have let them down. What sort of look they are into or not. How their year has been, what they have on their plate. This life is through their lens, not yours.
A good friend said to me the other day:
“Ed Sheeran makes my skin crawl”. I had to laugh, personally I love a bit of Ed. But life would get a bit dull if we liked all the same stuff.
There is only one Ed Sheeran. There is only one of you. That makes you perfect because you are a miracle. You are one of the billions of sperm that attached. You made it. You are a perfectly imperfect miracle.
When we learn to let certain things go, we feel so much lighter. Sometimes you will meet someone and you have instant people chemistry. I feel lucky to have friends like that in my life, some of those friends I may only get to see once or twice a year, but it’s all cool. On top of that, this year, I have met some incredible new people. They have enriched my life and inspired me in their own unique way. I get them. They get me (you know who you are).
We can’t get on and connect with everyone. We may in time be able to change a person’s opinions. But chasing after them is such a crazy waste of time when there are so many of us here. Always be you. Never let anyone change you. Be proud of who you are.
I’m going to end this post with an extract from Chapter 12 of my book which will launch in 2018. Have an incredible Christmas. Take some time out to reflect. I’m wishing you an incredible 2018, grab it, live it.
It’s never too late to be the person you want to be. It’s never too late to try new things that excite you. It’s never too late to talk to someone that inspires you. Don’t let fear hold you back. Quieten that noisy chatterbox. Drown out these harsh voices. Voices that do not belong in such a beautiful mind. A mind that is capable of helping you live a life you love. A mind that is capable of making a huge difference.
Your experiences are yours and yours alone. You will have your own unique, private life lessons. Be grateful to have had them and use them to help others.
My wish is that you choose to live. You choose to swim. You choose to tell the negative voices in that sweet head of yours to SHUT IT. Because my friend, a happy soul glows.
Mummy Jojo Uncensored – coming 2018.