#goaldigger is one of my current favourite hashtags. I love reading about people who have smashed their goals. It excites me and spurs me on. Last week was a good week for me. You see – one of my huge priorities for 2017 was to get fitter, find a healthier balance with food and get into a little pair of shorts by summer. I started to feel stronger and a bit leaner. Have I felt like giving up? Yes! Have I had days I had to force myself to go and workout – hell yes.
I posted the above 8 week update of my fitness progress on Instagram and had so many lovely messages over the course of the week. If I can do it anyone can because deep down I can be a lazy slob. I am naturally a person who loves to lounge on the sofa – ideally with lots of wine and tasty food. Look at kids – they too are naturally lazy. Mine will have me running all over the place after them. My 4 year old insists I wipe her bum some days because she “can’t be bothered”.
I have an amazing support network around me. It’s hard work but it is paying off slowly because let’s face it – I made fitness a priority this year. That’s my choice and it’s what I wanted to do for both my physical and mental health. What I adore about my awesome Personal Trainer is that he wants to change my habits and my attitude. He’s not just interested in me getting into the shorts. He wants to change my mindset so I continue to get stronger. That is a whole different blog post though.
I genuinely feel fantastic. Fitness has changed my life. I have also been hammering bags of kale like it is going out of fashion. I used to hate the stuff, it’s a miracle.
Other people may see exercise as low priority and that is none of my business. Do what makes you happy is what I say. Exercise is one of the things that helps me to do that. As is good company, music, food and top banter.
I am getting my book ready for the publisher next week and have a HECK of a lot of work to get through. Without giving too much away, I want to quickly share with you a little thought from it.
People can say really nasty things. It can hurt. It can drag you down. Ironically, yesterday was national happiness day but someone on good old Instagram really got to me. I was slated for the first time in my blogging career (yes I can’t believe it has not happened sooner). Instagram is full of #positivevibes and #goaldiggers (that’s goal, not gold). This person clearly should not be following anyone who posts using those hashtags (me – yes I am a total geek). I get that many of us will hate all the positivity chat, that’s cool. Millions of us love it though and that is cool too. I was slated by someone who see’s what they want to see on posts that are meant to be inspiring and motivational.
I am fairly new to Instagram. I am a blogger so I need to embrace it and hashtag the hell out of life. One thing I would say is that Instagram is a tiny snapshot. It’s a place for arty shots and inspirational quotes. It’s a place where foodies love to post exciting dishes. A place for people to shout out about exciting places and products. It’s a fun and creative place but we should never assume that people have a perfect life because they primarily post nice images.
Apparently I made a healthy lifestyle look way too easy and I came across as bragging. Never believe that effort is effortless. Never look at people and assume they find things easy. Some days for me it has been blood, sweat and tears. Also, I am really not sure what could possibly be bragging about posting my January Santa belly #awkward. I was mortified but as I said in January, I shall do anything for a writing project. The hard work is really just beginning now and it’s time to take it up a gear.
I got dubbed as an insult to “poor people” for cooking fresh food. It’s apparently too expensive. Some facts:
- a bag of kale costs 80p and lasts me a week
- You can buy a big piece of broccoli for 40p
- Tap water is my current favourite drink with a 25p wedge of fresh lime
This comment annoyed me so much because my Mum always cooked fresh, homemade food. Our disposable income was at an all time low, we were on a shoestring budget. My parents couldn’t afford to buy us things like chocolate biscuits. I found this comment not only patronising to me but also to my readers who may happen to be skint yet enjoy my posts. I love watching made in Chelsea but could I afford to live that way? No – champagne cruises, yes please!
If I love a product or brand I will shout about them from the rooftops. I get a lot of lovely free products and services but I work my ass off for that privilege. This person also assumes I am minted. I was tempted to send her a copy of my bank statement #humblepie.
Then I was criticised for being an insult to people who work full time and have no time to cook. This tipped me over the edge because I do work full time around my kids. Tonight, once they are asleep and by the time this post goes live, I will be up writing my book until the wee hours of the morning. When the amazing grandparents help me with childcare, I work on my freelance writing. I often work over the weekend too. If she had bothered to watch my Insta videos she would realise that a lot of the cooking I do HAS TO be easy, super quick, yet healthy throw in a casserole dish type of job.
Why am I telling you all this? Well I just love to try and bring something positive out of a negative situation.
You see – we all make up all sorts of stories in our heads and sometimes we need a reality check to help give us a boost. My book is all about these various voices. Some chapters are funny, some are sad or perhaps shocking but they are 100% real. This life is one crazy ride.
We need to learn to LET THEM GO. Do you recognise any of these?
“Why did they not reply to my email?”
Voices – they hate me, they don’t like me, I suck, they don’t care, they are selfish, they need to sort their priorities!!!!
STOP IT. They are probably just busy. Maybe their job is their priority at the moment because it has to be. Stop getting so caught up in yourself and let it go. It is out of your control. Chill out. You may not be able to control what they do or how long they take to reply but you can try and control your thoughts.
“Why do they never like my facebook posts?”
Voices – they don’t like my kids, they don’t care, they are selfish, they hate me, they are not real friends!!!!
STOP IT. Stop it right now. They probably didn’t see the post. Maybe they are VERY BUSY like lots of people. I am sure you are very loved but it is not all about you so stop making it.
Why did that girl slate me to bits yesterday?
Voices – I should have been more sensitive, why did I bother posting those images?
Stop it. You can’t please everyone and maybe she is having a hard time right now and you are an easy target.
Life is so very precious and so very short. Focus on going out and smashing your own goals whatever they may be. If you learn to see the positives in people and push the hate aside you will not only achieve a whole lot more but you will be so much happier. Effort is never effortless. Be inspired by all the goal digger geeks who hashtag the hell out of life. Good effort too as hash-tagging takes freaking ages.
We all have our issues to deal with, nobody has a perfect life. Let go of hate, spread positive vibes. If it is all getting too much and you are struggling to deal with the rage – speak to someone. Get some help. Don’t let your head be cluttered with things that don’t fuel your soul.